Friends-Then And Now And Forever ! ! ! !

Again my blog is inspired by a small piece of chat with one of my college friend. After a casual greeting, he mentioned his concern about the things, which were not taking place in his life even after trials; he was feeling a bit low. I wrote few sentences, in order to boost him. Internally I knew, the lessons and jargons which I am telling him are the same he told me once. I knew that he is optimist, strong and would be fine after sometime. But the fact is that every person is a human being and cannot be stable all through the life.
This small discussion brought the thought of friends in my mind.

Even after the end of College Life, I have been in Constant Contact with few of my Friends. These are friends who are spread in all zones of India, who once lived so close to me. We still talk in the same manner. And this makes me realize that these people would remain a part of my life, forever.
We know a lot many whom we term as friends, but there are few, who become a family with a period of time. People, with whom, I still discuss LIFE and even smallest of happening. The main focus although always remain on our wishes. We are so greedy, want so much in life. Or may be that we all are in such stage of life, where our demands and expectations are a lot more from our own selves and our life.
‘Job, Money and Marriage’ are always the highlights.

The moments which we spent together during college were different. Those were the times when we were immature, and thought differently. There used to be numerous instances to pull each other’s leg. We still do that, but now technology is the medium. Now we see from each other’s eye.

We still give suggestions and advices to each other. We still make each other learn from the instances of our and others life, for a better understanding, better performance in life.
We can discuss the things, get out of dilemma and move ahead with a confidence that there are at least few people whom we can trust; and moreover, who are with us.

I can feel that each of my friend has matured but still there is something which is still the same. It is this something, which binds us together even now, and makes us unique and yet ordinary for each other.
After all, these are the relations that have survived out of a number of odds, or I should say have matured out of immaturity. They ought to be SPECIAL.Sometimes, they have tolerated me, or sometimes I have (if so), and this has helped maintaining that thread of friendship between me and them.

Every time I chat, I talk; I don’t feel the distance in us.

My friends, all of them I know, are not from the same peer group.
Few of them have now been filtered from each portion of my life. Few of them who have remembered me and I have remembered them through the period of time.
They are not many, but for me they are enough. These are the people with whom, my relations have stabilized and become obvious. We don’t need to pretend each other and don’t even need to make each other realize our presence.

Life keeps on changing and replacement is the theory. One thing replaces other and one person replaces the other, as life never remains the same. And life today is so fast, one person and thing can never be at the disposal of other all the time.
Me and my friends now don’t have the same routines and same thoughts.
Times we used to spend chatting, meeting, or over phones have certainly reduced due to changed lifestyles, but still that bond is intact.

There are times when friends are all around in our mind. We are dependent on them, knowingly or unknowingly. Once, we start off with the after college life, a lot of changes happen. The dependence on a friend gets reduced. Also, because we as a person get more mature, with different life styles and our priorities keep on changing on short intervals. Everyday has different challenges and we all are busy in them.

At the end, we know, they are a part of our life, an extended family and with whom we would always search for a chance to catch up, even if it’s months or years after.

Happy to realize about my these ASSETS !

"WHY SO"

It might not be a very right topic to kick off my blog after such a long time.But I just can't get over this thought.The whole night has passed, and my brain is still making my heart beep over this thought.With my this college friend,I am always into the 'so called' stupid conversation, where we just have a nice time pass by praising ourselves, criticizing each other and discussing about new happenings in our and our common friends life. He lets me know that he has one more news, which we usually term as 'khbar'.In normal routine I asked him 'kaisi khbar'. Then he termed 'buri khbar hai' -its a bad news, I still took it lightly, considering it to be a part of daily light conversation.He started off by making me memorize about a guy in our college, although in other class,whom we were not in contact and friend with.The first words that popped from my window were 'that intelligent one', as everyone use to address him.What flashed in my mind, was an image of that guy, standing with a dearth of confidence, expressing his views from his personal sea of knowledge.A person, whom I thought was born with all that knowledge and analysis."Born to accomplish great things which no individual can do commonly".An evident speaker, who could address any kind of audience. I remember his face depicting simplicity in his own ways, pleasant expressions showing off the peace at mind and heart.
I asked my friend" What happened"? Before he could answer me,I made a confident guess in my mind that it would obviously be something related to his job. May be I am only equipped with thoughts related to job, so I guessed the bad news related to that guy's job only.
I could feel the wave of shivering going through my whole body, as I read those three words on chat window;he wrote "He is dead". I went through the struggle in my mind,to accept the fact.I was even more shocked to know, when he updated 'He had blood cancer'. I still did not wanted to believe this.How is this possible, all of sudden? popped in my mind again and again.
Reveal of the fact that this guy was about to get married soon,forced me to take my mind deep into the philosophical thoughts about life.
Questions started hitting my mind.Is Life pre-decided? Is this true that the story of our life is already written and we are just the actors on the stage? That's what Shakespeare meant by one of his creation.
Philosopher in me stated ; we as actors keep struggling for ourselves, but the story of our life is moving on,just like a film.The writer's and producer's work is intact, only we change the direction of our film. The climax remains the same.

I was left in confusing state.Was he aware of this bitter truth and this was the reason of calmness on his face? And he was struggling with extra-ordinary routine life, bringing him all the honors in career and college.That's what life is.

And what is that surrounds our life- job, money, leisure.
I thought that his life some how had a meaning. He did not longed for money or fame, focussed on only his 'karma'.
And this is what,leaves with a word 'intelligent' added to his name.
But, this had to be the end.
God may be fair in deciding the climax, in his own ways. May be I am not aware of the larger picture, what the almighty has painted.

But still I am left with this question in my mind, "WHY SO? "